Yesterday’s entry discussed time’s speedy nature and it’s ability to pass by virtually undetected. A different way to take the phrase, Time’s not afraid to fly, would be to personify time and allow it to be fearless. The bold determined nature of time could teach us all a lesson worth learning. After conducting the personal exploration of 2009 – where do you stand? Did you find any fear or doubts that held you back from overall success?
“Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can!! and I will!” This blunt statement is easier said than taken to heart and applied. All of these negative emotions can ensnare individuals into a depressing paralysis. This is no way to live life. When researching how fear torments individuals and stalls success, one can find polls and lists of fears ranging from personal fears or fears of an entire society, to being afraid of concepts like honesty and truth. The common factor is how they all consume and constrain the soul.
The Face Your Fears Today blog posted this list of fears surveyed in 2001:
While the exact rankings change slightly from year to year, the following is a list of America’s most common fears.* See if one or more of your fears are on the list…
1. Snakes – 51%
2. Speaking in public – 40%
3. Heights – 36%
4. Being closed in a small space – 34%
5. Spiders and insects – 27%
6. Needles and getting shots – 21%
7. Mice – 20%
8. Flying on a plane – 18%
9. Dogs (sorry, Lassie) – 11%
9. Thunder and lightning – 11%
9. Crowds – 11%
10. Going to the doctor – 9%
* Gallup Poll, February 18-21, 2001 (1,016 respondents; + or – 3%)
This list hardly seems like a collection of things that impair the achievement of goals and personal success. But what about the fear of failure. Now we are talking. Stepping outside of the norm (or at least your norm) can seem daunting. But if time isn’t afraid – why should we be? Personally I have been afraid to write songs by myself. I get such a rush out of co-writing – the immediate ebb and flow of editing and creation generally spurs me on to great writing sessions. If I write a song myself, who will tell me if it is good or not? The possibility of a bad song just doesn’t seem like an option for me. Unfortunately, I have a long list of unfinished songs. I probably shouldn’t share my goal of writing a song from start to finish by myself – but there, I said it. One of my goals by the end of 2010 is to write a complete song from start to finish by myself. It doesn’t seem like it would be very hard since I write these blogs entirely by myself almost on a daily basis, but it is just some crazy internal fear holding me back.
Fears like not wanting to look for a new job because you are afraid of change are no different than not being able to write a song on your own. The pervasive presence of fear in any equation makes all things undone equal. How quickly we forget that we are more than conquerors in life. Overcoming fears takes the individual to new heights. This accomplishment and zest can then become contagious to those around you and you never know who you could spur on to greatness. We can join time and thumb our nose at fear and fly right over the stumbling blocks that keep us from reaching our great potential. You know everyone is capable of greatness.
You, every one of you, have within you the awesome power to be great! Great in your own unique way. And to reach this greatness that is within each of you, you have to overcome the fears that hold you back from reaching this awesome potential. Take big bold steps, take baby steps… do whatever works for you to begin to turn these fears into positives in your life. Do this, and you will soar! “You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith,” Mary Manin Morrissey.
Come back tomorrow to hear the song that inspired these posts!